There is so much negativity about marriage out there. Terms like “the old ball and chain” and hearing from many people that the first year is the hardest and then that the second is…. and so on and so forth. Today, I came across a blog that talks about a lot of the things that Stephen and I believe in and the way we treat one another. I agree and live most of the things listed and it is refreshing to see that other people still believe in marriage as well.
Here is the post: http://www.ablogaboutlove.com/2011/10/best-tips-i-can-give-you-for-really.html
I have been feeling very lucky and fortunate in my life lately, most of all because Stephen is in it. We have been married only 3.5 years but it has never really been work. He is the best decision I ever made and the best one I make everyday. There is so much advice out there and statistics but honestly the only thing that has really helped me is when a friend’s mom told me that relationships should be at least 90% good, easy and fun, and if not, you aren’t with the right person.
Stephen is just amazing. We just fit so well together and have so much fun. We can talk about serious things but more often than not we laugh with one another. I truly never imagined that I would find someone like this. My previews of marriage did not prepare me for this, not that everything I have seen in other relationships was bad but that I was never close to something like what Stephen and I have. It has been a very pleasant surprise.
I was engaged when I was 18 to another guy and at the time it was hard to deal with the end but now I can’t imagine what life would have been like if I went through with that plan. I have never once regretted that experience. Great love is worth waiting for and being treated well should be expected. I am grateful for the experiences I had before Stephen, I learned to be happy with myself before him and found my self confidence and self love and he is great at complimenting and encouraging those things. I don’t need him but I want him and everyday we choose to be together and it is the greatest feeling in the world. He helps me to be a better person. I can’t wait for our little family to start. He is going to make a great dad and I can’t wait to see what the future holds for us.
The picture of the two of us above was from a visit to Alabama where we went to my first Alabama football game (and only so far but I see more in our future, for sure!). It was awesome walking around some of the campus where Stephen went to school and seeing tailgating like I could never imagine, they mean business down there! Stephen stepped into the bathroom and all of the sudden it started pouring rain. It was crazy, I was soaked in .5 seconds and there was nothing I could do about it. People were running under trees and trying to avoid it but there really was nothing to do but just let it happen. Stephen didn’t get as wet as I did at first, but his time came. It lasted maybe 20 minutes or so and then just stopped, cleared up and it was a beautiful day. I have never been that soaked in my life, I was uncomfortable and felt my make up and hair becoming a big mess. There were many uncomfortable and unhappy people there. Even in the beautiful weather once the game started, my pants were so wet (and didn’t dry completely until the next morning and it was an early afternoon game :)) and really it was kind of a disaster but we had so much fun that day and I will never ever forget it. Stephen was in his element and even though it could have been a horrible experience, somehow we laughed about it and it was one of the best days. I was lucky enough to share it with him.
With all the negativity out there and even in my life right now I just felt like sharing my feelings on my marriage and my wonderful husband.